I suppose I should feel Sad. When I envisioned myself becoming a mother I pictured a two parent household, a…

Ah, the married life. It’s a wonderful adventure isn’t it? When I was younger I pictured myself meeting the man…

For the majority of my life, I was of the mindset that it was okay to bypass all the romantic…

I didn’t even think it was possible, but I am having the best sex of my ENTIRE life…after two kids and fourteen years of marriage. How can sex be this good when you have two people with super busy schedules, a needy two year old, and a six year old who still finds a reason to randomly come to your room at 3:00 a.m.?  And where was all this good sex when I was in my twenties with no kids?

Now You’re Speaking My Language There is a quote that says “find someone who speaks your language so you will…

"Love is a choice, not a feeling!" When my pastor said those words during our marriage counseling I wasn't sure...

Picture this, a mom… on her grind, working hard to support her kid(s), making sure they are taken care of…

I’ve had this conversation more than a few times in my life, and I don’t think it’ll ever make sense…

It was probably our longest day in pre-marital counseling. I mean we unearthed some hard truths when we got on...

This right here is something that we have a hard time talking about. For some women, as soon as the topic is brought up, we shut down. I mean, think about it. Your husband comes in expecting it from you, but he hasn’t even taken the trash out. Maybe he’s a lazy mama’s boy who, if he is honest with himself, is looking for a woman who will take care of him. However, he expects you to be willing and ready to give it to him whenever and where ever. What about trust? If you can’t trust him, you are definitely not going to be excited about giving it up. How can he expect you to just throw it at him when he can’t even stay on top of paying the bills? He MUST be crazy! What is this “it” that I’m referring to? Submission. Yeah, THAT word.

I don’t know what happens in 7th grade, but apparently that is when hormones start to rage. Let me preface this by assuring you that when it comes to dating, my son is not allowed to have a girlfriend. But according to him, he’s dated 3 girls this year. In his defense, he didn’t know there was a strict no girlfriend policy because we never discussed it. I mean, when is the perfect time to discuss the rules around relationships? And even more terrifying, when is the perfect age to discuss the birds and the bees?

But, if your family is anything like mine, there was no bond at first sight and the “blending” part of a blended family was more like oil and water. At one point it was just us against the world and now one of “them” in the world is infiltrating “Us”. Can you imagine being stuck in between two of the most important people in your life? I contemplated many times if I would go through with marrying the most loving man I had ever known to preserve my son’s happiness and joy. I was willing to forfeit my own happiness for the happiness of my child.

You hear it time and time again, put your spouse first. Leave to cleave, yada yada yada and we do…

I was only 18 It was my freshman year in college. I was running track and extremely in shape.  Every…

Once upon a time… I was a young naive 17-year-old college freshman from the hood of East Orange, walking the…

I’d be lying if I said becoming a mother hasn’t taken over in all areas of my life. —at work, if something comes up, my response, “well y’all just gotta figure it out”  because guess what— I’m a mom first. It’s girls night and something comes up, “Sorry ladies I know we’ve been planning this forever, but I gotta cancel”—- I’m a mom first. I find myself reiterating the fact being a mom is number one when it comes to many areas of my life, and in most areas, I’m finding that people won’t always be happy with you prioritizing being a mother first. *Kanye shrug*Not my problem.

What do you do when your mind is consumed by one thing and one thing only? No matter how hard you try to stop thinking about it, you just can’t seem to push the thoughts out of your head. They slide in constantly throughout the day; while you’re in the shower, driving to work, riding the elevator, relaxing in the jacuzzi, hell even at church as you pray for forgiveness. When you aren’t spending countless hours allowing it to permeate your mind, you’re talking about it with your friends and God knows momma warned you never to do that.

I wrote the original version of this blog back in 2015. As I was transferring my blogs over to the…

Dear Da-Da, On a scale from 1-10 how relaxed are you? Because me, I’m like a -7. Since we’ve had…

  I read this today, and I might receive a lot of backlash for it… But I’m inclined to agree…

I listen to women all the time, talking about how they want a man with a decent job, they want a real man, they want a man who is patient and compassionate, they want a man with this or that; but they can’t offer a man the same in return.

Before we go any further, I must let you know after my first marriage failed, finding love and getting married again was far from my thoughts. Rooming separately, but still living with my soon to be ex-husband at the time, was more than enough on my plate.

I was adamant, confident, borderline obnoxious about the mother I would be and no one heard it more than my brother-in-law, Tyrell. He was the first of our close friends to become a parent, having his daughter, my goddaughter, while we were all still in college. Years later when he started dating my sister we spent a lot of time together. From the very beginning, Tyrell always prioritized his children. He would visit them every other weekend, almost 4 hours away, and never missed a birthday, Christmas or special occasion. I admired many of his parenting traits but always criticized him for being too lenient on his children.

“Friday is date night. What do you want to do?” “Hmm. I don’t know. What do you want to do?”…