On a scale from 1-10 how relaxed are you? Because me, I’m like a -7.
Since we’ve had our baby, I have been in overdrive! I have watched you day in and day out work just like me, interact with our child/children just like me and it still doesn’t feel like enough at times.
Truth be told, I am envious of you. Sometimes my envy actually translates to dislike… I honestly dislike you at times.— damn it felt good saying that.
I wake up in the morning after more often than not a late night with the kids and trying to squeeze a little “mommy time” in to do it all over, the next day and the day after that.
You wake up each morning looking quite refreshed after I’ve gone to bed with one eye open listening for a cry and thinking about all the shit I have to do tomorrow … can you relate? I have work brain and mommy brain on damn near every day, planning and prioritizing for us… yes, you read it right us. Hell, “Head of household” should honestly come with an extra bonus just for us working moms.
Meanwhile, you go to work, and I’m almost sure daddy mode goes right out the damn window… are you thinking about what you’re going to cook for dinner when you get home? Or how much of a fight bedtime is going to be… or better yet did you have your alarm going off at work today reminding you it’s time to pump? Oh, and when was the last time you did laundry for the house? Because believe me there’s a lot of it!
For goodness sakes, I’ve turned into a mommi for everyone. I cook, clean and still bend over when you want me to (most times let me tell you I’d prefer to sleep). And what am I getting in return?
Ahhh the joys of being a mom!
The time you spend with the kids isn’t like the time I spend… my time is draining and when I signed up for this partnership I thought it would be just that 50/50. You pick up when I fall short, and it just seems like as soon as I became mommi, I simultaneously turned into Superwoman too.
I’m convinced women take so long to get ready because it’s the only time we get to ourselves, sitting on the toilet long after I’ve already finished has turned into a little piece of heaven for me.— sad
Once in a while I’d love to hear honey, take a day off … like literally a full day! No you, no kids… just me! I probably wouldn’t know what to do but just hearing you say go take some you time would mean THE WORLD.
I expected more, and saying this out loud may sound ungrateful. I’m appreciative of all that you do, I just wish I didn’t have to do so much at times… becoming resentful of you was never a part of the plan.
Loving my partner however was.
Your burnt out superwoman.
Photo credit: SelectStock
Joanna CoatneyJune 11, 2019 9:59 pm
OMG Ashley! ALL. OF. THIS. It’s like you peeked into my brain somehow. My husband and I have definitely found the balance now, but bay-bay…the struggle was REAL! Thanks for sharing this!