All posts by: Ashley Qualls

Our first Father’s Day Without Daddy

I suppose I should feel Sad. When I envisioned myself becoming a mother I pictured a two parent household, a happy two parent household. I envisioned being in love… then... Read More

Who Says the Fun Has to End After Motherhood?

The moment I told my mother I was pregnant, the first thing she said was, “You know your life is about to end now, its no longer about you… it’s... Read More

Relax… It’s Only Hair

We all have a hair story I can remember being 12 and deciding I wanted dread locs, my hair was relaxed at the time and my hairdresser let me know... Read More

Don’t Just Survive Quarantine Season… STAY LIT!

By now I think we've used this word more in the past week than we will in our lifetimes. Is it just me or are you guys sick of hearing... Read More

How do you stay looking so good? 5 Tips for Moms to keep up with themselves after kids

If I had a dollar for every time someone made reference to the fact I’ve kept up with myself after having a baby, I wouldn’t say I’d be rich but... Read More

The Wine Down: 10 Tips for Beginner Wine Drinkers

Now I wouldn’t go calling myself an expert, but I mean they don’t call me “The Wine Drinking Mom” for nothing, so in honor of #NationalDrinkWineDay I decided to extend... Read More

They’ll Mention How We Were Slaves but Forget We Were Also Kings.

The topic of slavery, the elephant in the room no one wants to talk about. With my son only being two years old, it’s safe to say I have a... Read More

365 New Days, 365 New Opportunities

First off, Happy New Year! I said it last year and the year before that and I’m pretty sure almost every year before that but my goodness is time flying!... Read More

Making it Through Those Awkward Thanksgiving Conversations.

Thanksgiving, a time to gather round with family and friends, a time to give thanks, a time to reminisce, and catch up but —- let’s face it, Thanksgiving can be... Read More

Some nights I have a glass, other nights a bottle

It’s funny because my two year old son asks me, “Momma you want some vine”? any time we are at dinner because he knows how much his momma loves wine… not... Read More

I Want to be a Wife But I Hate the Thought of Being Married

Anytime I hear about someone I know getting married I’m so excited for them, part of me even envious dare I say it. Hell, a broad’s approaching 30… No pressure... Read More

I’m not a regular mom, I’m a cool mom!

To whom it May Concern: How many other people’s moms started their notes in school off like this? I bet we can all agree growing up black is no walk... Read More

Black Women Need Therapy Too.

Seeking treatment is no admission to any mental illness if anything it’s an admission to wanting more for yourself.... Read More

Ain’t Nobody Got Time for That: 5 Things to Consider Before Dating a Single Mom

Picture this, a mom… on her grind, working hard to support her kid(s), making sure they are taken care of while still trying to figure out whatever it is that... Read More

If only breastfeeding came with instructions

From the moment I found out I was pregnant, I knew I wanted to breastfeed. It didn’t take some nurse or doctor to convince me of the benefits, I knew... Read More

I’ll Submit When you Learn to Lead

I’ve had this conversation more than a few times in my life, and I don’t think it’ll ever make sense to those in denial. I’ve been asked in the past... Read More

5 Ways to Keep Things Exciting in the Bedroom

Have you ever sat back and wondered, “What the hell happened to my sex life?”— well just know you are not alone.... Read More

I Think I Love You More Now….

I think I love you more now… I can remember you saying in the hospital as I was in labor, “Can you please hurry up and have my son.” I... Read More

Open Letter To Governor Kay Ivey

Dear Governor Kay Ivey,   Did you think in all of your 74 years of living you’d be referred to as a misogynist?   Misogyny (/mɪˈsɒdʒɪni/) is the hatred of,... Read More

Gained a baby lost my sex life

I’d be lying if I said becoming a mother hasn’t taken over in all areas of my life. —at work, if something comes up, my response, “well y’all just gotta... Read More

Interacting vs Occupying Our Kids’ Time

This past weekend I took my 20-month-old son to see Sesame Street Live, we were accompanied by one of my good friends, her son who is close in age to... Read More

Avoiding Mother’s Day Envy

Last year, at work I overheard some older ladies talking about what they wanted for Mother’s Day, a woman replied, “I just want a day to myself, I want my... Read More

“Open Letter” to dad that most moms can relate to

Dear Da-Da, On a scale from 1-10 how relaxed are you? Because me, I’m like a -7. Since we’ve had our baby, I have been in overdrive! I have watched... Read More

F*** it I’ll keep my own last name.

  I read this today, and I might receive a lot of backlash for it… But I’m inclined to agree Stating a black woman choosing her independence over all else... Read More

Aspirations of Being a Stay at Home Mom!

With the weather finally breaking, I’m starting to feel flooded with working mom guilt all over. Working 2 jobs has always made me feel like I just don’t spend enough... Read More

Still Mourning The Murder of Nipsey One Month Later

In wake of the passing of Ermias Joseph Asghedom better known as “Nipsey Hussle”, it has us all questioning our place in the world. “How did something like this happen... Read More

After This Maybe I Am One and Done

Pregnancy was nothing new to me as I made a few poor decisions in my late teens, early twenties that resulted in 2 abortions and a miscarriage that would have... Read More
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