Posts filed under: The NO Judgment Zone

Oops… we did it again!

Please stop the Britney song you are playing in your head and let me tell you my story. When J and I married, we were in the middle of getting... Read More

Black Women: America’s Punching Bag

  Brother Malcolm said it best, “The most disrespected woman in America, is the Black Woman. The most un-protected person in America is the Black Woman. The most neglected person... Read More

The Big D Word

Yes, I said The D… But I don’t mean anything about man parts, I’m talking about depression. The word that we don’t want to talk about. How do we as... Read More

Ten Things To Do While Pregnant UNAPOLOGETICALLY

You’ve found out you are pregnant, Congratulations… I hope. This news, in most cases, is the most shocking, scary and beautiful news you will receive in your life; at least... Read More

Seven Years A Slave: My Struggle with Submission in Marriage

Okay, so to be fair, maybe comparing my seven-year marriage to slavery isn’t the best analogy….I’d say it was more like a slow and painful death. For starters, I butchered... Read More

Forget Hot Girl Summer, it’s Hot Mommi Summer over here!

For those who’ve been living under a rock, we’ll break down this entire movement for you! A Hot Girl Summer is a call to action to secure the bag, have... Read More

Breastfeeding & Sex – The great divide

Breastfeeding, the most beautiful and natural experience that many mothers will have with their little ones. While I’m not here to debate if breast is best, when making the decision... Read More

Good Fathers vs The System

If you are a parent then you know there are no words that can describe the love you have for your child. Parents will go through hell and back for... Read More

She doesn’t remember my name…

The pain of it is still real today like it just happened. I knew it was coming, I had seen the signs but when my grandmother could no longer remember... Read More

Abortion Laws 2019

The pro-life vs pro choice debate has been a long-standing debate that has created division of people in all circles. With the recent national news of abortion law changes, this... Read More

Abortion: A Loaded Conversation

Pregnancy Can Be Tough As a mom who spent a little more than a trimester of pregnancy being very sick, I understand how taxing carrying a life can be. As... Read More

Open Letter To Governor Kay Ivey

Dear Governor Kay Ivey,   Did you think in all of your 74 years of living you’d be referred to as a misogynist?   Misogyny (/mɪˈsɒdʒɪni/) is the hatred of,... Read More

I actually made an appointment for an abortion…

Once upon a time… I was a young naive 17-year-old college freshman from the hood of East Orange, walking the campus of The College of New Jersey in the suburbs... Read More

The Choice is Hers

My Opinion My Choice …I have that right…or I should at least. I have been torn about the abortion issue since the conversation became more mainstream. I’m not political nor... Read More

It Is My Body, I Should Get To Decide What To Do With It!

It is my body, I should get to decide what to do with it! Am I expected to go through a pregnancy that resulted from rape or incest? I should... Read More

I Am Pro Life

I am Pro-Life. Yes, I am. My daughters know this about me. My close friends and family know this about me. But please, Pro-Choice backers, do not judge me yet.... Read More

The 3 Most Important Lessons We are Teaching our 3 Black Sons

If I were to say that being a mom of 3 black boys is easy, I would be lying. I don’t see them any different than any other kid. I... Read More

Career or Kids: The Twins I Almost Chose Not To Have.

In 2006 and I was ranked #1 in the world. It was my third year running professionally and everything was going how I envisioned. So many great things happened that... Read More

The day(s) I became a Mom…

It was surreal, indescribable, it was Magical!Seeing my baby for the first time rocked my world! I couldn't do anything but scream and cry, she was perfect! I couldn't believe she... Read More

How Could I Let This Happen: My 2 Year old Said the ‘N’ Word!

You know, I was always the type of person that when I heard a child using foul language I’d shake my head and say “tuh, liberal parents”. Or when I... Read More

Girls Trip 2.0

She was set on driving in one car together but we couldn't fit both strollers in her car. This was the start of going to dinner becoming a stressful... Read More

Motherhood Chose Me

Heyyyyyyy! Tina checking in! If you follow me on Instagram then you know I’m completely obsessed with my babies. Like could they be any cuter?! As cute as they are,... Read More

The Day I Found Out I Was Becoming a Mother I Entered Stage One of Grief…

Needless to say, I had a real WTF moment when my period went missing (while on birth control, might I add) in May of 2012. I waited until the following... Read More

A Little Secret is Ok… Unless It’s a Child!

ad the first line “because you failed to attend the mandatory court hearing, paternity has been determined” and YOU ARE THE FATHER! (in my judgmental, condescending Murry voice). I’m sure... Read More

Stepping Up, Stepping Out and Over Stepping: Step Parent- My least favorite title (PART I)

YOU DON’T KNOW, WHAT YOU DON’T KNOW I absolutely hate being a step parent! Sound harsh? Hear me out. I started dating my husband in 2009 it was meant to... Read More

You Have Grey Hair, Where?

Traumatized, I quickly yelled to my husband. I had to be seeing things, I just had to be. Nobody goes grey DOWN THERE, right? I must be crazy! My husband... Read More

Stepping Up, Stepping Out and Over Stepping: Step Parent-My least favorite title. (Part II)

It's October 2016. Less than two years into our marriage, I'm five months pregnant and my husband starts dropping hints about the kids moving in. It wasn't the first time... Read More