Family Love Saved My Life
FAMILY LOVE SAVED MY LIFE So why do I say family love saved my life? What does that even mean, right? Let me start by saying that, I love my... Read More
Embracing Joy
Embracing Joy These past few weeks, I have had difficulty embracing joy. I knew I walked into that new place that I’ve been talking about walking into, for so long,... Read More
Sisters: Thank You Skeletons for Coming Out the Closet
Sisters: Thank You Skeletons for Coming Out the Closet Many families have “stories” that aren’t ever shared. We call them “skeletons” in the closet. What we don’t realize is, sometimes... Read More
Work Life Balance: Is There Really Such a Thing?
Work Life Balance: Is There Really Such a Thing? In the corporate world the term Work Life Balance floats around and when I hear it, I give it the side... Read More
How Falling To My Knees Has Served Me Well In My Marriage- A Blog About Submission
Falling to my knees has never felt like a position of weakness...Many nights I fall on my knees to pray, I've started every race for over 20 years on my... Read More
Three Things I Would Never Admit (Out Loud)
Thing number 3! I don’t always like my kids! Don’t get me wrong - I have 4 gorgeous children! I mean, check them out!... Read More
Love Your MommiBod Swimsuit
We're encouraging and empowering every mom to love yourself inside and out! So join us as we celebrate our Mommi bodies by emailing us today, July 26, 2019 a photo... Read More
Picking Up Shattered Glass: Failed Relationships and Co-Parenting
I must confess, I had no idea how to handle it, so putting up a wall of strength is all I knew to do. It wasn’t until I’d lay in... Read More
Five Tips To Avoid Dating a Grown Ass Boy!
As a firm believer in the saying, “You gotta believe the messenger before you can believe the message” I’ll go ahead and address this now… I in no way consider... Read More
Stepping Up, Stepping Out and Over Stepping: Step Parent-My least favorite title. (Part II)
It's October 2016. Less than two years into our marriage, I'm five months pregnant and my husband starts dropping hints about the kids moving in. It wasn't the first time... Read More
Career or Kids: The Twins I Almost Chose Not To Have.
In 2006 and I was ranked #1 in the world. It was my third year running professionally and everything was going how I envisioned. So many great things happened that... Read More
Stepping Up, Stepping Out and Over Stepping: Step Parent- My least favorite title (PART I)
YOU DON’T KNOW, WHAT YOU DON’T KNOW I absolutely hate being a step parent! Sound harsh? Hear me out. I started dating my husband in 2009 it was meant to... Read More
Mommination Presents The Call In
For those of you who’ve ever experienced challenges, barriers or unpleasant experiences related to friendships, this is the place for you….a judgement free zone where we unpack what friendship is... Read More
No Brown Skin. No Black Hair.
My oldest child was born in the summer of 2015. When I found out we were having a girl, I was ecstatic. My mother had given me a sewing machine... Read More
#ThatMommi
Alright Mommies, I have a confession….now judge me all you want, but I tend to keep things a little too real, (like all the way 💯, I’m talkin above a... Read More
How in the Hell Do I Parent Myself????
How do I, as a parent, tell them not to do something that I know that I would do? Is there a way to parent the me out of my... Read More
Am I raising a colorist?
My daughter is growing up, before my eyes. She is an honor student, active in clubs and is a great singer and performer, not to mention a great big sister.... Read More
Laughing at an impending war?
Please let those of us who want to laugh for a few moments, do that without your judgement. Without your claims of being unpatriotic. We may laugh for a moment... Read More
New Year, New Wife, New Mommi, New Me!
This may sound a bit cliché, however when I reflect on 2019, all I can think about is how I really wasn’t that great of a person. I wasn’t good... Read More
Santa: Jesus’ Homeboy
Ah, It’s Christmas time and while the reason for the season is the birth of Jesus and I’m sure, like I have, you will sit down and tell your children... Read More
Surviving Your In-Laws
With the holidays approaching, many of us will be surrounded by family and friends. This is always a good time to let your hair down and focus on the things... Read More
Women & Weed: A Candid Conversation Part 3 – We have the final say
You made it! This 3-part series of Women & Weed is coming to an end (I know I think I originally said 4 but I think a trilogy is a... Read More
Women & Weed: A Candid Conversation Part 2 – Motherhood
Welcome back! Hopefully you have read Part 1 in the Women & Weed series and are ready for Part 2 as we discuss Weed & Motherhood! Women & Weed You’ve... Read More
I’m Grateful For My Kids…BUT!
https://anchor.fm/mommyonthemove The other day Lil Dre asked me if he was a mistake. I said absolutely not! You were more like an AND I…OOOP! If you know me then... Read More
I AM A SURVIVOR OF ABUSE
I am a survivor of abuse in my relationship. When you hear these words, what is the first thing that comes to mind? Physical abuse, sexual abuse, substance abuse, mental... Read More
How to know when enough is enough…
As time went on, however, daily sex routines turned into once in a while. Date nights were a thing that happened on occasion and minor disagreements turned into full blown... Read More
Mourning Your Single Self
Congratulations! You are in the relationship that you always dreamed of whether you are married or just committed to the person of your dreams. You may have just found out... Read More
Oops… we did it again!
Please stop the Britney song you are playing in your head and let me tell you my story. When J and I married, we were in the middle of getting... Read More
Us vs Everybody!
In a time where it feels like the world doesn’t want to see positive images like this..it begins to feel like, “Team Lewis vs. Everybody!” It’s a challenge between wanting... Read More
I’m A Black Mom in America & This sh*t isn’t Easy
Being a Black Woman Became harder when I Became a Mom… What it means to be a black Woman in America becomes increasingly harder when you become a black Mom... Read More
Black Women: America’s Punching Bag
Brother Malcolm said it best, “The most disrespected woman in America, is the Black Woman. The most un-protected person in America is the Black Woman. The most neglected person... Read More
Am I Ruining My Kids?
I know, I know, it’s the age-old question that every mom deals with. “Am I ruining my kids?” I have yet to meet a mom that feels like they have... Read More
Black Women Need Therapy Too.
Seeking treatment is no admission to any mental illness if anything it’s an admission to wanting more for yourself.... Read More
I’m Dreading the Day My Daughter Asks Me Why Her Father Did Not Want Her
I asked my mom the other day, “what am I supposed to tell my daughter whenever she asks me why her father does not want her?” My mom told me... Read More
Ten Things To Do While Pregnant UNAPOLOGETICALLY
You’ve found out you are pregnant, Congratulations… I hope. This news, in most cases, is the most shocking, scary and beautiful news you will receive in your life; at least... Read More
The Selfish Reason I Stopped Breastfeeding…
If you’ve been following me and my writing for any length of time you know that I am a proud breastfeeding mama! I mean I was so excited that with... Read More
I Breastfeed Wherever and Whenever I Want
I have a beautiful baby girl who’s attached like no other. You can’t tell me nothing when it comes to feeding my baby and making sure she’s good. I... Read More
School is starting and I’m NOT mad about it…
I was at Tori’s open house last night, fighting the Florida heat as well as trying to maneuver the 4000 people that were also attending. As I was standing outside... Read More
Black Women Aren’t Submissive, But Here’s Why
In a recent video that went viral, a group of black men and women are seen debating why black men are flocking to white women, and the answer might surprise... Read More
Misconceptions Of The “S” Word
This right here is something that we have a hard time talking about. For some women, as soon as the topic is brought up, we shut down. I mean, think... Read More
What We Get Wrong About Submission: Who is marriage really for?
A few weeks back, a small viral firestorm was raised around a blog by Seth Adam Smith called “Marriage Isn’t For Me.” If you didn’t see it on your Facebook... Read More
I Don’t Listen and I Talk Back – A Blog About Submission
Who wears the pants? Years ago, when Dre and I were just dating I asked him “Babe, do I try to wear the pants in this relationship?” to which he... Read More
SAY MY NAME, SAY MY NAME (or not)
MOMMI, MOMMI, MOMMI the name we will hear forever until we depart this earth, but OMG can’t our children understand how to use it sparingly?!? Now don’t get me wrong,... Read More
Monogamy is Unnatural
“Till death do us part, forsaking all others” those are included in most vows or some close variation to that. And that is great and should be followed but the... Read More
Unexpected Family Friendly Travel Spot… Miami!
It’s that time of year where we take our kids on a little vacation to enjoy summer a bit, away from home. Unexpectedly this year, I ran into passport issues... Read More
We Are Trippin’!
An Open Letter to Myself The most dangerous gift in the world is natural talent. You’ve seen it before. It’s the college roommate who partied until 3 AM, never went... Read More
Body after Baby
It never fails, you always seem to find yourself pregnant at the same time as someone famous. So, you watch their pregnancy as you are watching your own. They aren’t... Read More
My 12-Year-Old is Dating
I don’t know what happens in 7th grade, but apparently that is when hormones start to rage. Let me preface this by assuring you that when it comes to dating,... Read More
Black Men Don’t Cheat?
I literally laughed out loud and thought, this is about as true as everyone claiming to be “Living Their Best Life” and we all know just how true that is.... Read More
Adding Another Woman to My Home
I definitely was wrong about a number of things as I entered into motherhood. First, I underestimated the amount of help I would need as I tried to continue being... Read More
Cupcakes and Rainbows Are For Girls!
My son came home, and asked me, "Mom am I gay?" I was shocked, almost breathless, before I answered, I had to ask him a question, did he even know... Read More
My Three Dads
It’s unconventional, to say the least, but my three dads all get along fabulously and it makes family events MUCH easier. I’ve seen so many women try to slight the... Read More
Love Personified
I remember one thing that I’ll never forget that I asked him one day when he was walking down the stairs. I said to him “Is it ok if I... Read More
When the D Isn’t Pleasing…Pt II
Now ladies, I’m sure we’ve all experienced disappointment and regret a time or two over the course of our lives causing us to crawl out of bed thinking, WTF…that was... Read More
My husband & I date other people!
You hear it time and time again, put your spouse first. Leave to cleave, yada yada yada and we do put each other first. However, we also understand the importance... Read More
Why I Put My Kids In Harm’s Way
How could you let this happen?
And then I thought about it a bit, and I realized—if I’m being honest—that I too have put my children into harm’s way on more... Read More
Dear Entitled White Alabama Lawmakers,
Initially, my plan was to start this open letter by declaring that you are the abortion your mothers should have had, but I opted not to go that route. Instead,... Read More
Grab them by the…
“Grab them by the pussy”! Isn’t that what the President of the United States said? So, if that’s what your Commander in Chief feels and thinks about women, why wouldn’t... Read More
Open Letter To Governor Kay Ivey
Dear Governor Kay Ivey, Did you think in all of your 74 years of living you’d be referred to as a misogynist? Misogyny (/mɪˈsɒdʒɪni/) is the hatred of,... Read More
I actually made an appointment for an abortion…
Once upon a time… I was a young naive 17-year-old college freshman from the hood of East Orange, walking the campus of The College of New Jersey in the suburbs... Read More
The Choice is Hers
My Opinion My Choice …I have that right…or I should at least. I have been torn about the abortion issue since the conversation became more mainstream. I’m not political nor... Read More
I Am Pro Life
I am Pro-Life. Yes, I am. My daughters know this about me. My close friends and family know this about me. But please, Pro-Choice backers, do not judge me yet.... Read More
Gained a baby lost my sex life
I’d be lying if I said becoming a mother hasn’t taken over in all areas of my life. —at work, if something comes up, my response, “well y’all just gotta... Read More
Dear Mommies
I write this to you because I’ve been hoping that someone would say it to me. Let me start by being completely transparent. Being a mom is the absolute greatest... Read More
Anticipating the D….
What do you do when your mind is consumed by one thing and one thing only? No matter how hard you try to stop thinking about it, you just can’t... Read More
His Death Healed Me
His death was the moment when all those emotions I had swept under the rug weren't just creeping out, somebody had removed the whole darn rug and they were out... Read More
Why I Created MommiNation
Everyone says it takes a village to raise a child and they’re so right, but what they aren’t saying is that it takes a NATION to support a mom!I needed... Read More
“Open Letter” to dad that most moms can relate to
Dear Da-Da, On a scale from 1-10 how relaxed are you? Because me, I’m like a -7. Since we’ve had our baby, I have been in overdrive! I have watched... Read More
Post Baby Body Blues
What can I say, it’s an age-old complaint. My postpartum baby body is giving me the blues. I’ve always been very petite, maxing out at 125 lbs as my “big”... Read More
Women Can’t Raise Men
I did not need validation from anyone else. I knew I was doing an amazing job, with or without a man in the house. My son was respectful, loving, caring,... Read More
The Other Woman
It’s 2:00 am, I’m 7 months pregnant and I hear his phone go off. He slowly gets up, checks to see if I’m asleep and creeps carefully out of our... Read More
My Single Mom Dating Struggles…
As I consider the idea of dating again, I ask myself, are there any helpful rules or guidelines for dating as a single mom? In all honesty, I was never... Read More
How Could I Let This Happen: My 2 Year old Said the ‘N’ Word!
You know, I was always the type of person that when I heard a child using foul language I’d shake my head and say “tuh, liberal parents”. Or when I... Read More
The Deadbeat
The stereotypical baby daddy. We all know one. If he isn’t yours, he’s your friends or your cousins. You may have seen him on tv on a court or reality... Read More
How Love And Marriage Found Me The Second Time Around…
Before we go any further, I must let you know after my first marriage failed, finding love and getting married again was far from my thoughts. Rooming separately, but still... Read More
Motherhood Chose Me
Heyyyyyyy! Tina checking in! If you follow me on Instagram then you know I’m completely obsessed with my babies. Like could they be any cuter?! As cute as they are,... Read More
STOP STEALING OUR #BLACKBOYJOY: A MOM’S PERSPECTIVE ON LOSING NIPSEY HUSSLE
Nipsey lived his life the way many of us talk about and fantasize that we would. How cool would it be to own the building down the street from where... Read More
The Day I Found Out I Was Becoming a Mother I Entered Stage One of Grief…
Needless to say, I had a real WTF moment when my period went missing (while on birth control, might I add) in May of 2012. I waited until the following... Read More
My Public Apology to my Brother-in-law! The Mom I Was Sure I Would Be vs. The Mom I Am!
I was adamant, confident, borderline obnoxious about the mother I would be and no one heard it more than my brother-in-law, Tyrell. He was the first of our close friends... Read More
A Raisin Almost Got Me Locked Up!
Since I have become a mother, I have never felt so inadequate, so consistently unprepared and small. Daily, there are constant reminders of things in which I have no idea... Read More
Divorce Didn’t Define ME – I am More Than Enough
Hey, my name is Roxanne Cowans and I’m so excited that you are here! I do hope I’m not alone with this one but have you ever felt different…. like... Read More
He Wants Another Baby. I Don’t. Whose Feelings Matter More? (Part I)
I’m at a crossroads in my marriage. One where each road is a potential path to resentment. You see, my husband wants a 3rd child, and well…I don’t. Let me... Read More
You Have Grey Hair, Where?
Traumatized, I quickly yelled to my husband. I had to be seeing things, I just had to be. Nobody goes grey DOWN THERE, right? I must be crazy! My husband... Read More
My 3 Year Old Secret!
Let’s just get it out the way now, I must confess, when I found out I was having a girl, I cried!! Now, before you judge me, hear me out.... Read More