In January of 2019 we decided to book our wedding at the beautiful Moon Palace Resort in Ochos Rios, Jamaica! Neither of us have ever been to Jamaica, so we were super excited. We also planned to go to Sandals in Negril the week after for our honeymoon. Fast forward to the beginning of March a year after we began planning and three months before our big day. Rumors of this new-”ish” virus going on in China came about, soon after the virus was in the U.S.

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For the majority of my life, I was of the mindset that it was okay to bypass all the romantic…

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As time went on, however, daily sex routines turned into once in a while. Date nights were a thing that happened on occasion and minor disagreements turned into full blown arguments. The signs were there but often times we are blinded by the lust and the “love” that we miss them or sweep them under the rug

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I don’t know what happens in 7th grade, but apparently that is when hormones start to rage. Let me preface this by assuring you that when it comes to dating, my son is not allowed to have a girlfriend. But according to him, he’s dated 3 girls this year. In his defense, he didn’t know there was a strict no girlfriend policy because we never discussed it. I mean, when is the perfect time to discuss the rules around relationships? And even more terrifying, when is the perfect age to discuss the birds and the bees?

Breastfeeding, the most beautiful and natural experience that many mothers will have with their little ones. While I’m not here to debate if breast is best, when making the decision to breastfeed you are sacrificing some things: alcohol, bad eating habits and possibly great sex to name a few.

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But, if your family is anything like mine, there was no bond at first sight and the “blending” part of a blended family was more like oil and water. At one point it was just us against the world and now one of “them” in the world is infiltrating “Us”. Can you imagine being stuck in between two of the most important people in your life? I contemplated many times if I would go through with marrying the most loving man I had ever known to preserve my son’s happiness and joy. I was willing to forfeit my own happiness for the happiness of my child.

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Today is my and my husband’s four year anniversary and I just want to take a moment to gush over the amazing man he has become. Over the course of our ten-year relationship, we’ve had lots of ups and downs, but he has always been the most thoughtful man I know. As we get more mature and seasoned in our relationship he has become so many more “mosts” and I’m realizing I must have prayed the “Ciara prayer” and didn’t know it!

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How could you let this happen?
And then I thought about it a bit, and I realized—if I’m being honest—that I too have put my children into harm’s way on more than one occasion.

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After 4 kids, being with my husband for 3 years and approaching the other side of 35…  I wanna know I still got it PERIODT! Now, I’m not out here soliciting DMs, taking phone numbers or wearing next to nothing to get attention. But if and when a man walks past me and does a double take or tells me I have a beautiful smile in that flirtatious can I go further kinda way my ego gets a little boost and I be feelin’ all extra kaute!

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I listen to women all the time, talking about how they want a man with a decent job, they want a real man, they want a man who is patient and compassionate, they want a man with this or that; but they can’t offer a man the same in return.

Here is the deal! Blacks don’t adopt! Especially when you look at the statistics of our caucasian counterparts. And here…

Friendship is a blessing in each of our lives. It is a necessity for living a full and enjoyable life. We all naturally want to connect with each other and have meaningful relationships. However, I’ve learned through the years, that not all friendships are healthy to hold on to. Sometimes, it’s a good idea to let certain friendships go.

Clicking on it and skimming through the article I came across the part where she does say, “…Just making sure that we put each other first, even before the kids, as tough as that sounds.” I stopped right there, almost cursing her but not seeing what she was actually trying to say. I became a part of the generation that immediately judges before finding out all the details. I was feeling annoyed, but something told me to start from the beginning and keep reading. And I did.

As I consider the idea of dating again, I ask myself, are there any helpful rules or guidelines for dating…

Before we go any further, I must let you know after my first marriage failed, finding love and getting married again was far from my thoughts. Rooming separately, but still living with my soon to be ex-husband at the time, was more than enough on my plate.