2. There is no handbook but…
There’s no handbook, there’s no science, no secret recipe or magic touch. You just gotta get on in there and do what works best for you and your family. Every motherhood journey will take its own unique course and parenting styles will look different depending on the child’s individual needs and abilities. Mommies of multiples understand first hand that you can’t parent every child the same. While there should be some degree of consistency when it comes to raising children you’ll quickly learn that they are all different and what works for one may not work for the other and that’s ok. Parenting is as much about learning as it is teaching!
The main thing to remember is that there’s no handbook, but God….He’s provided us with the manual
an open invitation to talk to Him anytime and the divine purpose to be fruitful so that we might bring up thriving, God-fearing, and loving offspring.
It’s also ok if it wasn’t love at first sight, if you feel a bit overwhelmed and if becoming a mother has caused you some grief. Your life is different now but soon you’ll see the beauty in it all and you won’t just survive your motherhood journey, you’ll thrive!
So remember it’s ok if you don’t do everything perfectly. To be honest, we learn best from our mistakes. Our imperfections are what allows us the grace to be human. Our mess ups as mommies are what remind us of just how much we care and desire to do better. They are the learning opportunities that stretch us and assist in our growth.
Absolutely no woman is prepared for motherhood, so why do we place so much undue pressure on ourselves to get it “right” and WTF does “right” even look like?
It’s okay if you don’t have a natural birth and select an epidural.
It’s okay if you don’t have a vaginal birth and have a Caesarean section
It’s okay if you don’t nurse and choose formula.
It’s okay if you don’t wean your child by the age everyone says he/she shouldn’t be nursing anymore.
It’s okay if you don’t know what organic foods to best feed your child for their growth and development.
It’s okay if you don’t know what to look for when touring pre-schools for the first time.
Sis…you👏🏾will👏🏾be👏🏾okay! And remember, when in doubt, head back home to MommiNation where we have a plethora of resources to assist you at any stage in mommihood!