Another year, but most importantly a decade has commenced.  While a brand new year and decade has opened up the door for amazing new opportunities, a fresh start has arrived! I know that you don’t only want to focus on 2020, but also how the seeds you will plant this year, can and will flourish into the next few years, decade and beyond.

Creating, better yet making New Year’s resolutions is nothing new. This practice is a tradition all around the world. Everyone desires a better future.

As a lover of information, I wanted to know the statistics when it comes to the number of people who actually create but more importantly complete a resolution. So I too, can increase my odds of success this time around.

So I went to google. Here’s what I found:


According to a study conducted by the University of Scranton, researchers found out about 60 percent of the United States’ population make a New Year’s resolution. However, only about 8 percent of them are successful in achieving them. By the time we are near the end of the first month of the year, most people have given up on their commitment to self improvement altogether.

I don’t know about you, but this does not sound very promising right?! Why bother if I’m bound to fail you might say? NO,NO my friend. Instead of looking at the majority, let’s set our minds on being part of the 8 percent!

So I got to thinking, what are some things one can consider to ensure your goals make it past January 2020 and beyond? I compiled a list of ways one can increase their chances of succeeding when it comes to resolutions and goal setting.

1.  Aim to keep your goals or lifestyles changes small.

A big enormous goal can become too daunting. Your mind will starts telling you things like, “Girl, who are you fooling?! This is not you!” Start small and build as you go. The small wins snowball into bigger and better things and grow into your ultimate reward.  Successes triggers you to keep going to gain more success.

2.  Find out your why!! 

What is compelling you to make the necessary change? Knowing the answer to this question is pivotal especially during the tough days that will arise as you continue down the path of excellence.

3.  DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT beat yourself up when you slip up.                                                       

Ladies we are so tough on ourselves! Has this practice been working? No. Not very effective right.                                        I urge you to be more forgiving to yourself as you are with others.       

For example, if you eat that delicious decadent dessert, instead of throwing in the towel and saying, “I am a failure!” (disempowering and a lie) try saying something like this. “I will enjoy this dessert and I will ensure the days to come, I will be more healthy because I love and value myself.”               

Each moment is an opportunity for change. Until how you perceive yourself shifts, you will continue to do the same thing you desperately desire to change. Romans 12:2 speaks on this very notion, “Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

4.  See what you are doing right already and build off of that. 


We live in an age where we are moving really fast and inundated with deadlines, sports practices and games, meetings, obligations, and assignments. We have not taken a moment to see what we are gifted in.  Some of us excel in areas such as organization, writing, painting, networking, motivation, etc. Find out what your thing is, make it a goal and build off of that momma. You will be amazed what magic you create.

Remember ladies that a goal in essence is a new skill. Challenges will arise but that’s expected. As we push through, we will rise above the challenges.

These few things will hopefully help revolutionize and transform you from the inside-out. Though we love the essence of ourselves, we deserve an elevated version. This alone would allow us to reach a higher version of self and fulfill what we were created to do. Who wouldn’t want that?!

This newfound, elevated perspective and mindset will be beneficial in all aspects of your life: family, health, relationships, career, emotional health, quality of life and more. This will not only be a New Year’s resolution success but the beginning of a new lifestyle.

Ladies we can only be the best woman, mother, spouse, friend, business owner, daughter only when we become the best version of ourselves. Let’s make a vow to become our most authentic, elevated selves.

Now, I’m curious: what are your New Year’s resolutions or lifestyle changes? Or decade resolutions?

Leave your comments below

Love you,

Princess C.


Norcross, J. C., Mrykalo, M. S., & Blagys, M. D. (2002). Auld lang Syne: Success predictors, change processes, and self‐reported outcomes of New Year’s resolvers and nonresolvers. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 58(4), 397-405.

Stephen Sharpio