Hey, my name is Roxanne Cowans and I’m so excited that you are here! I do hope I’m not alone with this one but have you ever felt different…. like you do not fit in with the other amazing moms around you?
I felt lost from going through a tough divorce. Unfortunately, I held myself captive. Starting life over after ten years of investing everything was not part of my plan. It felt as if I failed as a woman and especially as a mother. The shame and embarrassment of not being able to keep my marriage and family together greatly scarred me. But, divorce didn’t define me. With time, I began to heal and realized that divorce didn’t define me I am more than enough.
The Plan ‘My Plan’
Looking back, I thought I would have an amazing career, with a successful business of my own, live in that dream house with the cute car. I would drive around with my perfect husband, well behaved kids and live happily ever after!
Well, … tahdah here I am! A stay at home mom, with two daughters biologically, and my second husband who has kids from his previous marriage. We’re quite the blended family aren’t we!
Meet the Cowans
We love hard, play hard and believe it or not disagree hard too. We’ve been through so much and to make it here is such a blessing. God is awesome!
Checkout Mr. Hubs that’s Robert! Retired Army Veteran, Mr. Romantic, lover of Christ and my rock. He’s truly God sent. Let me tell you…God answers prayers!
While I was going through a difficult divorce, Rob appeared right in front of me – literally! He quickly became a rock solid support for myself and my oldest daughter. I always refer to him as my Good Samaritan. We’re actually five years down in the game but it feels like we’ve been together for a lot longer. I must highlight that meeting Rob after his service to the country was a big transition for me.
Two Greatest Blessings
Let’s talk about my first born. Nyomi, she’s nine going nineteen years old. With that said, she is very smart, super creative and challenging. Sometimes, she is the definition of a sour patch kid. At the same time, she is the sweetest, most loving and protective best big sister ever. I am still trying to figure her out.
Eight years later came Saige. Rob and I literally started over with this one…but hey we are loving it. Saige is eighteen months and a sweet little big heart. She completes the family and keeps us all on our toes literally. She is an occasional sour patch like her big sister but mostly a yummy red velvet cheesecake – my fave!
I am….
Reading God’s Word and meditating on His truth played a major role in helping me discover divorce didn’t define me and who God intended me to be.
I am more… than my thoughts
I am more… than how others see me
I am more… than enough
I am… PRICELESS
Wife, stay at home mom, stepmom, new mom, momming all day everyday – I AM PRICELESS!
Thanks so much for getting to know a little about my journey to finding me!
Let’s connect, sparkle and rock mommihood together! Please join me on Instagram I can’t wait to hear your story!
One love Mommi Roxi!
Alecia Sawyers
March 6, 2019 3:01 amBravo, Roxanne! Telling your story is the best validation of self. I like the fluidity of your writing and the authenticity of your voice. Rising among ashes is the most trumphant action a human can do. Keep making way for the brightest future. Be well!
Roxanne Cowans
March 7, 2019 7:02 pmThanks Alecia! Thanks for the warm and encouraging feedback.
One Love
Mommi Roxi
Tina
March 6, 2019 6:58 pmGreat read! Proud of everything you have overcome 😉 love you
Roxanne Cowans
March 7, 2019 7:05 pmThanks Tina, so glad you enjoyed my first blog. Can’t wait to share more.
One Love
Mommi Roxi
Dr. Tweety
March 6, 2019 9:02 pmI admire your tenacity! Your story is not only authentic but inspiring to many women, including myself who also experienced the negative emotions of a divorce. I’ve witnessed you with your loving family and see that God certainly has blessed you with new beginnings. Good luck with your continued success! Keep sharing your story because it will touch many who need it ????
Roxanne Cowans
March 7, 2019 7:10 pmThanks Doc! I’m about to flood this place with tears. I’m so touched by your feedback and pray that you continue to heal and prepare for your new beginnings.
One Love!
Mommi Roxi
Sabrina
March 7, 2019 8:29 pmLove it love it love it…am so moved by this post! Thank you for continuing to inspire others. God’s plans are always bigger and better than ours and its obvious you are living His plans..looking forward to other blogs..
Keep soaring and becoming the woman God has crafted you to be–very happy for you & your FAMILY ????
Roxanne Cowans
March 9, 2019 4:12 amThanks Sabrina???? I’m very excited that you connected with my with blog. God sure is great all the time. Stay tuned for more chica!
SKM
March 9, 2019 3:20 amI love it! This is living proof that there is love after despair and happiness after pain! God richest blessings and many more years. Love what you are doing! I am sure women everywhere will be empowered by your story.
Roxanne Cowans
March 9, 2019 4:39 amThanks Sasha for your kind words and encouragement. All glory to God for the journey. Couldn’t make it without him.
One love????
Mommi Roxi
Sasha
March 14, 2019 8:09 pmThank you for speaking your truth and showing the world that there is life and true happiness and darkness, rough times and treacherous divorces. Women everywhere can benefit from your story. Thanks for sharing your life balance!
Sash
Roxanne Cowans
April 6, 2019 11:02 pmSasha, as difficult as it still is to talk about I’m so glad that I’m able to share my difficult experience and give inspiration to other women. Thank you for reading and taking the time out to share your comments. Blessings!
Mrs.R
March 16, 2019 5:07 pmThanks for sharing your story. Its beautiful to know that there is life after divorce and God brought you a loving man. I enjoyed your words
Roxanne Cowans
April 6, 2019 11:06 pmMrs R, I’m glad to hear how much you enjoyed my blog. Thanks for reading and sharing your comments. Blessings!
Jayann Clayton
March 21, 2019 10:42 pmHey cousin ???? thank you for sharing your story with us . It was so raw and true , I admire your strength and I’m glad you were able to pick up the pieces and move forward. You allowed god to work within you and for you and it allowed your true healing. Love you
Roxanne Cowans
April 6, 2019 11:11 pmJayann, this is truly sweet to know from my little cousin watching on. God is my strength and I couldn’t have made it without him. Thanks for sharing your feedback, I greatly appreciate it. Nuff love!